I knew I never loved Dean Rader

 

ASSIGNMENT #1, MAY 3, 2021   I NEVER KNEW I LOVED DEAN RADER   …………..by Dean Rader   ,,,,,,after Hikmet/O’Hara, Reeves/Young Someday, I’ll love Dean Rader                                                           the way the blue jay loves the sparrow egg, or perhaps the way the waves love the curve they give themselves to when giving is no longer an option like falling or dreaming                                            or even being on this earth, in this body.                           Someday I’ll love my body, itself a form of silence, which is not the same as being quiet,  even though we are sentenced to this language with its strange letters, their shapes like bowls, small sticks, the bellies of pregnant women,  as though everything spelled                                                        must also be birthed and broken, cracked open and spilled,                                                  filled with the absence of what won’t do, like waiting for the earth to tap out your name.                                                                  I never knew I loved my name,  can someone who has never believed his name love it?  Once on a train to Serbia a soldier woke me from a dream I still remember and pointed a gun at my right shoulder.                                                                                                I never knew  I loved my shoulder until I placed my son’s head there  our first night home from the hospital,                                                                        his chest lifting like an umbrella in a storm. I don’t like comparing my son to an umbrella, though he has known what it is to be folded,                                                                                  to be wet and cold. Someday I will love the cold,                                                        not just as metaphor but as a means to clarity, which is what I need this November night,  the moon swinging in its black noose over the city, the entire world hooded,                                               blindfolded perhaps, lined up against a wall and waiting,                                                                        the way a reader waits, for a poem to get where it’s going.  Someday I will love the poem,                                                           the way I will love being afraid, but this is not what I want to say. It is something more like this:                                                         the future is not what it used to be, and even that is only part of it. The other part has something to do with speculation,  like what awaits us when we remove the hood.                                                              I never knew I loved blindness.  The punishment for sight is always forgiveness. Someday I will love forgiveness,                                              but it is difficult to love what has not been earned. My grandfather when he was tenderest would call me Dean Dean, and I felt like a child                            in the body of a boy who believed he had the ideas of a man. Every morning after breakfast he and my grandmother would throw leftover toast into the backyard for the birds. I just remembered the birds and the bread.                                                                                            I love them both.  Someday I will love more things,                                                                     and I will not think of death, and even if I do I will not feel saddened by the end of the person who wears my name,                                                                 even though it is always easy to mourn                              a stranger.

                                                    not just as metaphor but as a means to clarity,
which is what I need this November night, 
the moon swinging in its black noose over the city,
the entire world hooded, 
                                             blindfolded perhaps,
lined up against a wall and waiting,
                                                                       the way a reader waits,
for a poem to get where it’s going. 

Someday I will love the poem, 
                                                         the way I will love being afraid,
but this is not what I want to say.
It is something more like this: 
                                                       the future is not what it used to be,
and even that is only part of it.
The other part has something to do with speculation, 
like what awaits us when we remove the hood. 
                                                            I never knew I loved blindness. 
The punishment for sight is always forgiveness.
Someday I will love forgiveness, 
                                            but it is difficult to love what has not been earned.

My grandfather when he was tenderest would call me Dean Dean,
and I felt like a child 
                          in the body of a boy who believed he had the ideas of a man.
Every morning after breakfast he and my grandmother
would throw leftover toast into the backyard for the birds.
I just remembered the birds and the bread. 
                                                                                          I love them both. 
Someday I will love more things, 
                                                                   and I will not think of death,
and even if I do I will not feel saddened by the end
of the person who wears my name, 
                                                               even though it is always easy to mourn 
                            a stranger.